The Couple’s Exercise

Relationships require work. They require patience, humility, sacrifice, empathy, and compromise. But here’s the thing…healthy relationships are only possible when we have a healthy relationship with ourselves. Afterall, how can we expect to maintain healthy relationships with others if we don’t maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves?

So, before we start blaming the problems in our relationships on others, we need to stop and ask ourselves this question:

Do I genuinely love myself?

If not (or you aren’t sure) then you’ll have to accept that your relationships will continue to suffer until you work on the relationship you have with yourself. 

Relationships are like tending to a garden. We have to make time for them, sacrifice for them, and nurture them if we want them to thrive. 

This exercise was designed to help couples connect with each other–to remind each other of the reasons they fell in love in the first place. But remember, it takes two to tango. So, allow yourself to be vulnerable, to be open to suggestions, and to be an empathic listener. If you can’t do those things, then prioritize working on yourselves first. Afterall, you can’t expect to cultivate a healthy relationship with someone else if your authentic self doesn’t come to the table. 

The Exercise

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TASK 6: THE VOICES

  • What was your internal dialogue like?
  • What were the voices in your head saying?
  • Were they mean? Were they positive or negative?
  • Describe what you noticed.

TASK 5: THE SOUND

TASK 4: THE SIGHT AND SMELL

TASK 3: THE TASTE

TASK 2: THE TALK

TASK 1: THE WALK

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